Card from Housewives Tarot by Paul Kepple & Jude Buffum
Judgment. We all do
it. Whether we judge other people or
ourselves, it is something that we all do at one time or another, for one
reason or another. Some judge more than
others and some say they don’t judge, but their actions prove otherwise, and
they are judged for judging even though they say that they don’t judge. It’s a vicious circle.
Let’s face it, we have to judge in our lives in order to
protect ourselves. What foods are best
for us, what situations may or may not be the best for our well being, and what
people may or may not fit best into our lives.
We have to do it; however, I believe that it is sometimes taken to an
extreme to our own detriment.
It is interesting to me that when someone decides to get rid
of a pet for their own personal reasons that they are chastised for doing so
but when someone wants to get rid of a person in their life that they receive
all kinds of accolades and support for their decision.
For example, I once witnessed a barrage of insults on
someone who chose to get rid of a dog because they were extremely destructive
and the person just couldn’t handle it anymore.
They had a couple of small kids and having a destructive puppy on top of
it was just too much for them to bear.
The insults that ensued were unbelievable, stating that it was just the
puppy’s nature and they needed to be more patient and wait for the puppy to
grow out of the destructive stage.
Another example is coyote attacks in rural neighborhoods. I have seen numerous people say the same kind
of thing….we are on their land, we pushed them out by the increased human
habitation and we need to learn how to live with them. Take the proper precautions. These same people who insult people for
getting rid of an animal and preach that we need to live in harmony with
animals and learn from them are the same people who throw away people because
the friendship doesn’t suit their needs.
Don’t get me wrong, there are definitely some people that we
need to cut out of our lives. We need to
protect ourselves and make sure that only people that are for our highest good
are included in our lives, but are we just quick to judge who is right and who
is wrong for us? I am of the belief that
everyone is in our life for a reason.
There are lessons to be learned from every person that we come in
contact with. This does not mean that
every experience with every person has to be a positive one. Challenging people and challenging
circumstances are to be learned from. I
have cut people out of my life for one reason or another so I am not claiming
to be perfect by any means. Some of
those people will remain out of my loop but there are some that I am wondering
if it was the correct decision.
Sometimes we cut people out of our lives because we just
don’t want to deal with them….they aren’t detrimental to our health, they
aren’t “pretend-a-friends” who have ulterior motives…they are people who we
just don’t want to deal with or we just don’t want to make time for. Perhaps they are needy, negative or difficult
to deal with. Does that mean they aren’t
worthy of any kind of friendship with anyone?
Does that mean that they don’t have anything to teach us or they can’t
learn anything from us? Right off the
bat they can teach us acceptance and patience.
If you dig deeper and discover who they really are underneath the
neediness, negativity or difficulty, they may have a lot more to offer if you
take the time to get to know them….and in doing so perhaps the needy person
won’t be as needy or the negative person won’t be as negative because they were
given the time to be heard or the difficult person wont be as difficult because
they have learned to let go a little bit because of their friendship with
you. Each one of us has something to
offer. We all need to live in harmony
with each other…not just wildlife, but the wildlife gets more consideration
than people do and that saddens me. We
should accept people who are different than us or have different beliefs than
us. That does not mean that we have to
be friends with every person who resides on Earth because that just isn’t
realistic. We are different for a
reason. However, we CAN respect those
differences and we quite possibly can gain a lot of insight by befriending
those people whom we don’t really want to deal with on a regular basis. If you find yourself attracting a certain
type of person that you would rather repel, maybe you are meant to learn a lesson
from that kind of person, and until you learn that lesson, you will more than
likely continue to find yourself attracting that type of person.
The bottom line is that we all deserve respect, time and
consideration. We all have our own
challenges in life and every single one of us may not be the perfect type of
match for another person but those differences can be learned from. Don’t dismiss a person because they aren’t
the type of person that you necessarily want in your circle. You never know what they can offer you if you
give them a chance, or, what you can teach them. By not giving people a chance, you run the
risk of not seeing another side of things, not seeing beauty through the eyes
of someone else, not learning a new skill, not appreciating diversity and the
beauty within it. Open your heart and
mind to new possibilities. Definitely
choose your relationships wisely, but I ask that you really think about the reason for
releasing a relationship before you do so.
You could be giving yourself a great gift, or better yet, a gift to
someone else……a fabulous new friend.
Just something to think about.
Have a beautiful week!
Blessings!!
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